Monday, December 10, 2012

My Weekend

Once again, I find myself awake. It is 1:15 in the morning and though I have to work in just a few hours, my brain appears not to be concerned by that minor detail. So...my thoughts turn to my weekend. It was amazing. I am thrilled that I can say that because at times, it was touch and go. The weekend could have gone either way. Thanks to my wonderful family, I have some beautiful memories to store away.

My weekend starts on Thursday night since I don't work on Fridays. I've been taking a Biblical Counseling class on Thursdays from 6 p.m. to 10 p.m. It is a fascinating class but it makes for a very long day. This week, the class was cancelled at the last minute because the teacher was sick. Though I felt bad about that, I was somewhat relieved. I was feeling a bit rundown and was also struggling to get into the "Christmas spirit". I decided to do a little Christmas decorating with the sudden free hours. I managed to set up a couple of artificial trees (I had decided last year to skip a live tree because I didn't want to have to ask for help in getting it.) I love the lights so I like to set up multiple trees. I went slow Friday morning but then got going and cleaned the kitchen, dining room, and living room. That may not sound too exciting but I felt so much better. I like a clean and tidy house, especially during the holidays. Then I rewarded myself with a little sewing time and got a skirt put on the dress I've been working on for Felicity. After that, it was time to get all gussied up to accompany my dad to the Senior Banquet at church. It was a pleasure to spend the evening with him and I was reminded of how fortunate I am to have him and to have such a close relationship with him.


Saturday morning I continued to attempt to do a bit of decorating and also tackled cleaning my room and bathroom. I was beginning to lag, however, and I realized that the whole "decorating for Christmas" thing all by myself was starting to get me down. I kept at it, though, as if sheer will power would change my attitude. Mid-day, I got a phone call from Tammera, my daughter that lives in Tucson. She LOVES Christmas so her enthusiasm is infectious. She is expecting her 3rd baby any day now. It was so fun just to hear her voice. I miss her a lot! Later that evening, I had a long phone conversation with Sarah and we talked of serious things and I was again struck by how blessed I am. My girls care so much for me and I am so glad that we can talk about most anything. Later, my oldest grandson, Gabriel, came over and was spending the night with me. I had set up a little Christmas corner in my bedroom with a couple of very small trees. At first I thought it might be a bit pathetic, to have Christmas trees in my bedroom. But as I said, I love the lights, so I decided to relax and enjoy them. Gabriel and I sat in relative darkness, in front of the trees, and I read him the Christmas story. He loves the part where the angel Gabriel speaks to Mary. This kid keeps me on my toes. When I read about the angel telling Mary that she would have a baby who would be God's Son, he asked, "Isn't that like Mary being God's wife?" He is 9 years old and we proceeded to have a conversation about how God planned for Jesus to be born, Jesus being both God and man and also talked about the concept of the Trinity (in very basic terms). What a privilege it is for me to have this time to share with him. On a lighter note, we then climbed up into the attic, a space that is accessed by a ladder in my closet. He isn't usually allowed up there but we got comfortable on a blanket surrounded by all the junk that I store up there and we read "Horton Hatches the Egg". He thought it was pretty cool and suggested that we sleep in the attic. As good an idea as that was, I opted out for the night and suggested we plan ahead so that we could actually make a bed instead of making Grammy sleep on the plywood.

This morning found me helping in Kian's Sunday School class where I have somehow ended up volunteering "temporarily". Each week, I enter reluctantly, but each week I leave being glad that I was there. I am helping my friend, Armida, who felt God called her to pitch in when the revered Miss Pam moved down south. I just sort of tagged along thinking that I couldn't let my friend tackle it alone. So here we are, two relatively old women, trying to manage about a dozen 2, 3, and 4 year olds. Thank goodness for the teenage girls who have taken pity on us and come to help out. We'd be lost without them.

After church, Jen and Zac informed me that they were coming to my house to help me finish decorating. They knew I had been struggling a little with that whole project. Zac has been very sensitive to that and has initiated a day for the last couple of years to get me going. I took their 3 oldest home with me while they went to buy a dishwasher. The whole "reading in the attic" had been so successful with Gabriel that I decided to repeat the experience with the Hanna kids. They each picked out a book and climbed eagerly up to the attic where we read while we waited for Jen and Zac to get done with their shopping and bring us pizza. While in the attic, the kids discovered some old Fisher Price toys that I had packed away so we got them down and they happily played with them for quite a while. Later, we added a newer Nativity set. They had no problem playing with the baby Jesus and the manger along side of the gas station.


Zac drug all the decorations out and we made quite a mess but we got the trees "dressed". Donny had to work today but evidence of his care for me was demonstrated when I found extra little trees very lovingly packed so neatly and the boxes labeled and the extension cord that I needed tied up in a nice bundle, all done last year when he helped me clean up after Christmas. Though Melissa wasn't with me, I knew she was home, happily sewing on the machine I had recently gotten for her. It does my heart good to know that she now shares my joy in sewing. 


Zac and the kids surprised me with a batch of homemade chocolate chip cookies plus a delicious dinner of chicken, couscous and salad. Could the day get any better?


My dad joined us briefly...


Who can resist that chunk-o-monk?

So now I sit in the quiet of my room, enjoying the lights in my "corner", and reflecting on the blessing of family, the gift of God's Son, and the joy of a weekend that reminded me that I am not alone.




Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Midnight and still counting...

I have to work in the morning. What is the matter with my brain? It just won't shut off tonight. I'm not depressed, not upset, not worried. I'm just...awake! I decided that I may as well jot down a few thoughts that I want to remember later.

We are doing a study on Proverbs in my Tuesday night Women's Bible Study. Tonight's lesson was on money and wealth and contained valuable advice concerning too much money, just enough, and poverty. One thing Proverbs makes clear; wisdom is to be a much higher priority than money. And with wisdom comes understanding, peace, honor, and a spirit that pleases the Lord. One of the pitfalls of money is that we can begin to trust in it instead of in God. If a person is particularly wealthy, I can see how tempting it would be to think that you're insulated from life's troubles and to believe that your money will somehow exempt you from suffering.

I'm far from wealthy. But I realized, while doing this lesson, that lately my focus has been on money a bit too much. I've been weighing options, trying to figure out how to support myself for the rest of my life. I am blessed to own a home and though I have a mortgage, it is still mine and it will be an investment that I can sell one day and hopefully, generate income. My thoughts have been spinning as I have considered multiple scenarios for enabling me to eventually retire and still survive. I have an excellent realtor (Steve Holman) who has been advising me, a successful accountant friend (Ken Jones) who has graciously offered his expertise, an investment specialist (Jim Watts) who is helping me to plan, a great tax person (Kathy York) who is familiar with my situation and a father (Bob Hager) who is 100% supportive and is also a fabulous listener. What a team! And there are others that God has surrounded me with as well who are available for whatever I may need.

That's all good! But it can also be overwhelming and consuming. I know that God wants me to be prepared, to plan, and to be a good steward of what He has given me. But in my quest for the "retirement plan" , I have come dangerously close to placing my trust and finding my security in the "plan", in the money my house might generate, in worldly "wealth", instead of trusting in the God who has lent me all that I have. I am grateful that He pointed that out to me this week. There's still hope for me!  :)  And I haven't strayed too far - by that I mean that I haven't gotten all crazy about trying to push things to happen or trying to hurry up and finalize something, anything, just so that I can say, "all right, now I'm set. I can live securely the rest of my life." That will never happen, no matter what I do, so I'm glad I didn't get to that point. But I want to be cognizant of the fact that I need a delicate balance. I need to respond to God's leading as He gives me the wisdom to do so, and I need to realize that His leading may come through some of the experts that He has provided. I need to do my part by budgeting, working hard, and managing my money wisely. But I also need to wait. And trust. And know. I need to know that God will direct me when the time comes and He will let me know what I am to do. And I can let it go and rest in Him and I don't need to be anxious. What peace there is in that! He knows what I need now and what I will need later. I don't need to present Him with a spreadsheet of expenses! He's got me covered and if I focus too much on my financial situation, I insult Him with my lack of faith.

I'm kind of excited. Low and behold, I don't need to know it all. I don't need to plan it all. I don't need to control it all. I just need to be prepared to be obedient to the God who has His plan for my life perfectly mapped out. It's awesomely freeing!


Proverbs 16:20

New International Version (NIV)
 Whoever gives heed to instruction prospers,
and blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord.





Proverbs 30:7-9

New American Standard Bible (NASB)
Two things I asked of You,
Do not refuse me before I die:
Keep deception and lies far from me,
Give me neither poverty nor riches;
Feed me with the food that is my portion,
That I not be full and deny You and say, “Who is the Lord?”
Or that I not be in want and steal,
And profane the name of my God.